I convinced my boyfriend of a year to go to a school basketball game with me (he detests sports, but a friend of ours was playing). I bought our tickets from our vice principal at the door, handing her a twenty and asking, “two students, please!”
She said, “I hope you aren’t buying his ticket.”
Shocked, I tried to laugh, “I did make him come with me!”
She replied, “Well I guess that’s okay, honey. I was gonna tell you to dump him if he made you pay.”
We went to our seats, he was uncomfortably silent and I was cussing her out profusely. I felt angry, devalued, defensive, and pissed by what society forces on him.
Reblogged from microaggressions.
Ridiculous gender roles are very ridiculous.
Alie arrived at our 1st-grade classroom wearing a sweatshirt with a hood. I asked her to take off her hood, and she refused. I thought she was just being difficult and ignored it. After breakfast we got in line for art, and I noticed that she still had not removed her hood. When we arrived at the art room, I said: “Allie, I’m not playing. It’s time for art. The rule is no hoods or hats in school.”
She looked up with tears in her eyes and I realized there was something wrong. Her classmates went into the art room and we moved to the art storage area so her classmates wouldn’t hear our conversation. I softened my tone and asked her if she’d like to tell me what was wrong.
“My ponytail,” she cried.
“Can I see?” I asked.
She nodded and pulled down her hood. Allie’s braids had come undone overnight and there hadn’t been time to redo them in the morning, so they had to be put back in a ponytail. It was high up on the back of her head like those of many girls in our class, but I could see that to Allie it just felt wrong. With Allie’s permission, I took the elastic out and re-braided her hair so it could hang down.
“How’s that?” I asked.
She smiled. “Good,” she said and skipped off to join her friends in art.
‘Why Do You Look Like a Boy?’
I thought that was beautifully written. What she’s doing is amazing-destroying the stereotypes that these children may have otherwise carried for life, and encouraging them to be more tolerant, open-minded, and nonconformist. I dislike it when people say this is a mature subject (same with homosexuality/ bisexuality, transgender ect); these children, even without understanding critical gender theory (as my friend Ditty would phrase it :D) can comprehend the nuances in gender identity. My friend who is gender-variant, who is a tomboy, has often faced many of the same problems (being called a boy, a lesbian when she’s straight, ect), and it’s been very hard for her. That part at the end with the grandma- that really hit home. She comes from a traditional family, so even her parents aren’t too okay with it. This teacher is doing the good fight.
Can I just say that this was an amazing article to read? For someone who’s jumping feet first into incredibly needed diversity competency, who is being trained through a program to facilitate diversity workshops, what this teacher is doing is to me the ultimate goal. Because Socialization starts at birth, and childhood is the time when Socialization occurs. What the teacher did, having the children list out “boys” and “girl’s” items, is very similar to a gender diversity workshop I recently encountered. We unconsciously absorb media messages and gender norms, but when we sit down and list them out in front of us, many times most people can realize the fallacy in labeling something a “boy’s toy” or a “girl’s toy”. To be able to combat Socialization at such an early age is the dream, in my opinion. I witnessed firsthand the impact the most simple identity workshop had on a group of 15ish high school students in realizing both the differences and commonalities of their identity related experiences. Implementing diversity curriculum and workshops in K-12 could have untold benefits for wiping out socialization that hurt LGBTQ, women, People of Color, etc.
I’m an African-American male-bodied genderqueer who happens to support Ron Paul for President as I was attending the Republican straw polls in Ames, Iowa today. The glares I got from the people around me just kept piling on, as well as people asking me why I was there if I supported Obama. I was even wearing my Ron Paul shirt, but all they could see was the color of my skin. I am 16, Ames Iowa Straw Poll around older privileged white males. Made me ostracized, marginalized, stereotyped, distraught.
Reblogged from Microaggressions. Another Reblogger pointed out fairly that this is a valid Microaggression. That said, what many of the other Microaggressions readers and I seem to agree on is the near absurdity of this person’s political stance. This person may believe strongly in the economic principles of Ron Paul’s campaign which is fine and good, but most of Ron Paul and wider GOP field’s campaigns also almost completely dehumanizes, oppresses, and abhors this person’s very existence. Should this person be surprised by the reaction expressed from many of the other Ron Paul supporters? I certainly am not surprised. And I’m not saying that this person should be de-legitimized in any way. Obviously I value a person’s status as a complete human being more than I value a society’s economic principles, so that is my choice.
"Upsetting: I wrote that one of my friends is superwoman and it autocorrected to superman. Sad babies. Gender equality people wtf." -Friend’s Facebook Status
When my boyfriend’s siblings begin telling rape jokes and expect me to find them funny. When my boyfriend himself sometimes casually uses rape in regards to video games or daily life. I am 19, in Midwestern US. Makes me feel belittled, hurt and misunderstood, like what happened to me is acceptable.
Reblogged from Microaggressions.
I can’t comprehend what it must be like to have to hear people joking with “I got raped by that test” or “I just raped with that killing spree”. It is no joking matter, I’m sure.