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    So Brad totally talked about this in an interview, saying that Shiloh prefers to be addressed by all the family as John (and if anyone calls ze—I guess, I’m not sure if there are chosen gender pronouns yet, so I’m just going to use ze/zir—Shiloh, ze’ll be all “it’s JOHN OKAY?”) and prefers traditionally “masculine” things like swords and boy clothes etc., and he and Angelina don’t care because they a) recognize that not all children are the same/follow traditional gender binaries and b) they love John no matter what so it doesn’t matter to them what gender ze is. Which I thought was awesome/adorable.

    Love them so much.




    I’m not nessesarily a big fan of Jolie, however I will say this: If my mother had done for me what she is doing for Shiloh/John it would have saved me a a childhood full of frustration, numbness and confusion. I would not now look back on 19 years worth of life and wish I had been able to LIVE IT. Instead, I spent 19 years pretending to be someone else. I can’t help but feel robbed. Why do we tell children who they are? HOW can we tell children who they are?

    Parents, please, LISTEN to your kids. Embrace difference and know that you are raising your children right by allowing them to be themselves and loving them unconditionally.

    I personally find it disgusting that this magazine seems extremely critical over such an amazing move on their parts.

    “Is it harming the 3-year-old?”  What the fuck?!!??!??

    also, Shiloh totally looks like daddy. O___O 


    (via el-tang)


    I convinced my boyfriend of a year to go to a school basketball game with me (he detests sports, but a friend of ours was playing). I bought our tickets from our vice principal at the door, handing her a twenty and asking, “two students, please!”

    She said, “I hope you aren’t buying his ticket.”

    Shocked, I tried to laugh, “I did make him come with me!”

    She replied, “Well I guess that’s okay, honey.  I was gonna tell you to dump him if he made you pay.”

    We went to our seats, he was uncomfortably silent and I was cussing her out profusely. I felt angry, devalued, defensive, and pissed by what society forces on him.

    Reblogged from microaggressions. 

    Ridiculous gender roles are very ridiculous. 

    feministfrequency’s Anita Sarkeesian delivers another amazing feminist perspective critique, this time about everything that’s wrong with LEGO’s new “LEGO Friends” line of toys specifically targeted towards girls. The absurd gender role, gender stereotype, gender segregation bulls*** that LEGO cooked up this time made me facepalm multiple times throughout this video analysis. 



    “It’s Okay to be Neither,” By Melissa Bollow Tempel

    Alie arrived at our 1st-grade classroom wearing a sweatshirt with a hood. I asked her to take off her hood, and she refused. I thought she was just being difficult and ignored it. After breakfast we got in line for art, and I noticed that she still had not removed her hood. When we arrived at the art room, I said: “Allie, I’m not playing. It’s time for art. The rule is no hoods or hats in school.”

    She looked up with tears in her eyes and I realized there was something wrong. Her classmates went into the art room and we moved to the art storage area so her classmates wouldn’t hear our conversation. I softened my tone and asked her if she’d like to tell me what was wrong.

    “My ponytail,” she cried.

    “Can I see?” I asked.

    She nodded and pulled down her hood. Allie’s braids had come undone overnight and there hadn’t been time to redo them in the morning, so they had to be put back in a ponytail. It was high up on the back of her head like those of many girls in our class, but I could see that to Allie it just felt wrong. With Allie’s permission, I took the elastic out and re-braided her hair so it could hang down.

    “How’s that?” I asked.

    She smiled. “Good,” she said and skipped off to join her friends in art.

    ‘Why Do You Look Like a Boy?’

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    I thought that was beautifully written. What she’s doing is amazing-destroying the stereotypes that these children may have otherwise carried for life, and encouraging them to be more tolerant, open-minded, and nonconformist. I dislike it when people say this is a mature subject (same with homosexuality/ bisexuality, transgender ect); these children, even without understanding critical gender theory (as my friend Ditty would phrase it :D) can comprehend the nuances in gender identity. My friend who is gender-variant, who is a tomboy, has often faced many of the same problems (being called a boy, a lesbian when she’s straight, ect), and it’s been very hard for her. That part at the end with the grandma- that really hit home. She comes from a traditional family, so even her parents aren’t too okay with it. This teacher is doing the good fight.

    Can I just say that this was an amazing article to read? For someone who’s jumping feet first into incredibly needed diversity competency, who is being trained through a program to facilitate diversity workshops, what this teacher is doing is to me the ultimate goal. Because Socialization starts at birth, and childhood is the time when Socialization occurs. What the teacher did, having the children list out “boys” and “girl’s” items, is very similar to a gender diversity workshop I recently encountered. We unconsciously absorb media messages and gender norms, but when we sit down and list them out in front of us, many times most people can realize the fallacy in labeling something a “boy’s toy” or a “girl’s toy”. To be able to combat Socialization at such an early age is the dream, in my opinion. I witnessed firsthand the impact the most simple identity workshop had on a group of 15ish high school students in realizing both the differences and commonalities of their identity related experiences. Implementing diversity curriculum and workshops in K-12 could have untold benefits for wiping out socialization that hurt LGBTQ, women, People of Color, etc.  

    (via talkpolicy-deactivated20120121)

    Fun little post at Sociological Images. I find it so ridiculous that sciences like Engineering and Computer Science are so stereotyped and publicized to be male-dominated, when in fact there are so many brilliant female/non-male Engineers and Computer Scientists. Imagine how many more there could be if we could break down these stupid Boy’s Clubs fences. 

    (In case you don’t get the post: The company is ostensibly advertising to men. Regardless of whether or not some women do like the things pictured, it’s clear that the company did not consider or target women in their advertisement campaign.)

    A fascinating (though possibly NSFW) old post at Sociological Images that shows numerous images of Bathroom Gender Signs from around the world. The different ways to depict gender here and abroad are fascinating little windows into how gender is perceived and by different cultures. 

    HA. HA. HA. Is this a flippin’ joke? This is just another in a long line of ridiculous gendering of something that shouldn’t be gendered at all. It’s just food. Everyone loves food. Just because one self-identified male you interviewed doesn’t like a certain food doesn’t mean you should make the generalization that most men hate that food too.

    Here’s my favorite (not), regarding Cupcakes: “The ratio of frosting to cake is all off. And you look like a little girl eating them.”


    I’m an African-American male-bodied genderqueer who happens to support Ron Paul for President as I was attending the Republican straw polls in Ames, Iowa today. The glares I got from the people around me just kept piling on, as well as people asking me why I was there if I supported Obama. I was even wearing my Ron Paul shirt, but all they could see was the color of my skin. I am 16, Ames Iowa Straw Poll around older privileged white males. Made me ostracized, marginalized, stereotyped, distraught.

    Reblogged from Microaggressions. Another Reblogger pointed out fairly that this is a valid Microaggression. That said, what many of the other Microaggressions readers and I seem to agree on is the near absurdity of this person’s political stance. This person may believe strongly in the economic principles of Ron Paul’s campaign which is fine and good, but most of Ron Paul and wider GOP field’s campaigns also almost completely dehumanizes, oppresses, and abhors this person’s very existence. Should this person be surprised by the reaction expressed from many of the other Ron Paul supporters? I certainly am not surprised. And I’m not saying that this person should be de-legitimized in any way. Obviously I value a person’s status as a complete human being more than I value a society’s economic principles, so that is my choice. 

    "Upsetting: I wrote that one of my friends is superwoman and it autocorrected to superman. Sad babies. Gender equality people wtf." -Friend’s Facebook Status

    A fascinating article over at Sociological Images about the sexualized depiction of women in mainstream media. It’s about a study done by two assistant professors that analyzes every single cover of the Rolling Stone magazine. Each cover was put into one of six categories: Male/Female Not Sexualized, Male/Female Sexualized, Male/Female Hypersexualized. The results are astounding, that 90% of the Males depicted on the covers are Not Sexualized, and Females are 20%-60% Sexualized or Hypersexualized. 


    public boolean isGirlCute(){
    return false;


    I see waaaay too many jokes like this on Facebook about the lack of “attractive computer science girls.” I am a female computer science major (in a small private university), and I initially wanted to try to join this group of friends, who are some of the best CS students in the school. Makes me feel ashamed and disappointed.

    Reblogged from Microaggressions. I will always Reblog the posts about Women in Computer Science. It’s a recurring theme over at Microaggressions and that only helps confirm my understanding that women are still generally perceived/stereotyped as not competent Computer Scientists or do not fit heteronormative beauty standards. 

    A really cool (though somewhat long-winded) video/vlog by a woman from Hong Kong, on what she perceives as gender restrictions placed on women in Hong Kong. Also awesome Pikachu impersonation at the end. 


    “How does A WOMAN get the idea to study computer science?”

    Made me feel attacked, forced to defend myself; like the speaker thought I was defective for not fitting his stereotypes.

    I follow Microaggressions and this is a common theme, one that I find utterly ridiculous. So I’m going to reblog it every time. Anyone who has any vague notion that women are somehow inferior to men at Computer Science needs a reality check. Women are just as capable of being talented Computer Scientists as any man. It’s true that they still make up a minority of Computer Scientists, but their number is growing very rapidly. The incoming Information and Computer Science class of 2013 (my year) at UCI was at least 1/3 female, if I recall correctly; and some of the best programmers I know are women.


    ““Oh, that’s so cute. Is your boyfriend a tuba player?””

    High school teacher to me, wearing a tuba shirt (I am the only female tuba player in the district). Made me feel devalued and belittled. First of all, I was offended by her assumption that I couldn’t play tuba because I was a girl.  I often got comments indicating that people thought I was too small and weak to march with such a large instrument. Secondly, I’m a lesbian, so I was rather upset she assumed I must have a boyfriend.

    Reblogged from Microaggressions. 

    Holy Cow. This is so relevant to my concerns. Gendered stereotypes about musicians and instrumentation is one of the issues that got me into thinking about gender and equality. Anyone can play any instrument to a high capacity and to think that girls can’t play Tubas well, or boys can’t play Flutes well, is utterly ridiculous. (I acknowledge that there are genderqueer people who play instruments too. For the sake of argument I did not include them, but do acknowledge them.)


    When my boyfriend’s siblings begin telling rape jokes and expect me to find them funny. When my boyfriend himself sometimes casually uses rape in regards to video games or daily life. I am 19, in Midwestern US. Makes me feel belittled, hurt and misunderstood, like what happened to me is acceptable.

    Reblogged from Microaggressions.

    I can’t comprehend what it must be like to have to hear people joking with “I got raped by that test” or “I just raped with that killing spree”. It is no joking matter, I’m sure.